Making Relationship Work - A Decision to Make

Larry Tan, SDB; he is one of my favorite Salesian catechists for his antics that are unusual for a priest. I remember him once giving a humorous but truthful sermon during a Sunday service. x

Making Relationship Work - A Decision to Make

The three rings of relationship.
fr. Larry Tan, SDB; he is one of my favorite Salesian catechists for his antics that are unusual for a priest. I remember him once giving a humorous but truthful sermon during a Sunday service. He said: “There are three types of rings in any relationship. The first is the engagement ring; a symbol of union between two lovers. The ring symbolizes ownership of one party to another and vice versa. The second is the wedding ring; a betrothal symbol in its highest form, by which both parties agree to legally bind their union and with the blessing of Holy Matrimony, what God had joined, let no one separate. The third is the Ring of Suffering, the last being Ring symbol of pain. He suffered a bad relationship after losing his magic spell. His homily made everyone in the church laugh. However, I want to add one more ring to what Fr. Larry had told me. This is Tiri-ring (ring of madness); suitable for couples who had lost their sanity due to excruciating pain and suffering caused by a bad relationship. But had it really gone wrong for the relationship or for the partners?
Always looking for a quick way out
I was browsing a social media group thread when I came across a forum titled "Marriage or Residency? Most are in favor of living in marriage, simply for its convenience. In this age of modernization, everything is easy; ATM that dispenses money anytime, anywhere, Instant Noodles, Instant Coffee and the like. It is common human nature to desire comfort. This common desire is the reason why we always dream of the impossible: to find the best partner in life. By doing this, people drift in and out of a relationship, as if someone is eager to find the best deals on items for sale. But the question is: why would you look for the best partner if you are not perfect either? The truth as we all know it; no one is perfect, not even one.
There is no bad relationship, only bad couples.
When the marriage begins to lose its intimacy or when the magic of the fairy tale wears off, couples begin to harbor thoughts of flight to find another Romeo or perhaps a new Juliet.  How easy it is to get out of a messy relationship to find someone new. It can be thought that, like any other contract, the marriage will end at the end of a predetermined expiration date. However, we never realized that it is the couple who has to move the relationship forward so that it works miraculously as it should and not the other way around. A relationship fails not because it is doomed to fail, but because the partners have not fulfilled their respective part in the relationship Love Spell That Works Really Instantly.
The relationship is a decision.
Deciding is reaching a solution that puts an end to uncertainty or resolves a dispute. Distinguish between options; some big, some small, some good and some bad. When making a decision, you have to choose between small things like chocolate or vanilla ice cream or big things like what career to pursue or which house to buy. What about the decision to stay or get out of a bad marriage?
My marriage is an example of a relationship that has nearly gone off the rails. Without my wife's decision not to give in to all my doubts, she would now be singing a different tune herself. How she manages to consistently love an immature, cocky husband like I used to be is a decision she made when our marriage was on the rocks. If she had chosen an easy way out of a rocky relationship, she wouldn't even have the moral preponderance to write this article.
Make relationships work
We have all made mistakes. Some are accidental, while others are intentional and sinful. But what happened in the past must remain in the past and must never be opened unless you want to unleash the curse on Pandora's box. Love never keeps mistakes and doubts, but good memories.
I have often used this favorite phrase: "There is no such thing as a marriage in heaven. But marriage can be a bed of roses or thorns, depending on what we want. For a relationship to work, love must be put into practice. Love must be compounded by hard work between two willing partners for a relationship to work. While it's true that love started it all, your good intention to make your relationship work will redefine the meaning of love from a "simple noun" to a "verb.